Things seemed to be going well until they split up in March.We chat to Selena about her pal Nick - with just two weeks before her new album arrives.Selena and Bella and The Weeknd aren’t the first – Rihanna is also, understandably, unhappy that her pal Jennifer Lopez is now hooking up with Drake, and Nina Dobrev and Nikki Reed both dated Ian Somerhalder.
Friendship circles allow dating and relationships to begin. This is especially true in the celeb world, where everyone knows each other, people from the industry are all hanging out, and it’s as easy as getting your people to call their people to arrange a date.
Selena is/was pals with Bella and is definitely friends with her sister Gigi, so the pair know each other, and they absolutely mix in the same circles (the Waterhouse sisters, Taylor Swift, the Jenners.) Now there are many arguments for and against dating a friend’s ex but in this writer’s opinion, you just don’t do it, and the main reason is because you are putting your friend in the most awkward position possible.
If you do ask your friend if they would mind you dating their former loved one, they have two options: either they pretend they’re totally cool with it and let you go on and find your happiness, and they’re left to watch two people they were close to move on without them.
They’re clearly not going to end up together, and you and their ex should both be free to find love – even if it ends up being with each other.
Yes, it’d be nice if people had chats to check if everything’s okay, discussed their emotions, and ensured the relationship progresses without hurting anyone involved. And I’m tired of over-simplified, generalised rules like ‘NEVER date a friend’s ex, EVER’ preventing people from enjoying fulfilling dating lives.