I ve given up on dating

A massive study of the queer community done by the Pew Research Center in 2013 found that 84 percent of bisexuals in committed relationships were with the opposite gender.Whether it’s to prevent discrimination or to keep your family from finding out, there are millions of reasons why us 84 percent are sticking to straight relationships.Having a family would be a much bigger deal if I was with a woman.Although I’ve never wanted kids and never ever had any maternal instincts in my whole life, there was always the slight chance I would change my mind.The women I’ve dated weren’t good at communicating, and neither am I.Our society doesn’t raise women to communicate their feelings and speak their mind very well (me included).Frankly, being bisexual and being a woman isn’t easy, so back when I was in my mid-20s, I gave up on dating women entirely and just decided to admire them from afar.Here’s why: I felt a lot of pressure to pick a side.

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It makes dating men much easier; they’re raised to be a little more blunt in their dialogue without every other word being, “Sorry.” , a lot.

Having a child when your partner for life is male is usually much easier than if that person is female.

And the thought of sperm donation is kind of weird and a little gross in my opinion. I never went out hunting for my husband or life partner or anything, we just ended up tumbling into bed together one night.

They think you’re a straight girl looking to impress men with your bisexualism or you’re really into threesomes. Or, you’re actually a closeted lesbian, afraid to come completely out.

Even a lot of gay folks don’t see bisexualism as part of the queer spectrum. All of my dates with women have been with other bisexuals because most lesbians I’ve met seemed to see my bisexualism as a kind of cop-out, like being “half gay” somehow makes me less of a part of queer society then they are.


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