To clarify my intentions, I never kept my women friends around to potentially go back to them as booty calls (which is a pretty common technique).It’s more that I tend to think highly of those I’ve dated and don’t see why we couldn’t at least remain “friendly”, if not friends.It occured to me this morning that the only women I stayed friends with in my years of online dating were those who I’d hooked up with while we were dating. A client was telling me this morning that she went on a first date, and while she thought he was a nice guy, she just wanted to keep him in her life as a “music friend”.Instantly, I knew that this was not going to happen.And I started thinking about it and wondering why that is. It may be true, but it’s more likely that it’s the rejection talking. Men (and women) do not want a constant reminder of their rejection when hanging out with so-called “friends”.
Despite this, curious scientists have attempted to uncover the relationship qualities that indicate the highest likelihood of remaining friends with an ex after a breakup.
Every four months throughout the year, researchers interviewed the participants to assess the levels of investment, commitment and satisfaction in the participants' relationships.
The participants whose relationships ended during the year were then asked how positively or negatively they felt about their exes, how frequently they communicated with their exes and the type of relationship they had with their exes, such as if they had no contact at all, if they were friends or if they were best friends.
Unless the first person you've ever had feelings for becomes the person you marry and stay with forever, you've most certainly experienced a breakup, whether that breakup was wonderfully relieving, massively heart-wrenching or perfectly amicable.
Besides the obvious fact that you are no longer dating, there are lots of ways your relationship with your ex changes after a breakup.